Please Stop Silencing Me [Please Un-Rec]

An Open Letter to the MyDD Community

Dear All,

I came to this blog to find a place to exchange opinions openly and freely.  In part, I indeed found a diverse fellowship of people with different backgrounds and allegiances.  I have been fortunate to find instructive agreements and disagreements alike.  But now I feel bad and alone.

Lately, no matter what I write, a group of users tries to shout me down with personal insults.  They try to silence me with smears and by distorting what I have written to suit their purposes.  Oh, it hurts.  It's lonely.  It's unfair.  It's against the principles of the party I support and the country I dearly love.  

Some hate me because I develop my thoughts beyond their attention spans.  Some hate me because of my vocabulary.  Some oppose me simply because of my qualified support for our president-elect and cautious hope he will succeed in addressing some of the issues our nation faces.  But make no mistake.  It is hate.  The thugs are winning.  My lamentation ascends to the heavens in a protest against the dying of the light.

I have tried, with all my might, to maintain civility in the face of this hatred.  I have not always succeeded.  Mea culpa.  I am ashamed to say that I have once in a while returned a personal attack.  I regret engaging in snark to attempt to deflect the malice I have faced, as I am doing right now.  It's almost too terrible to bear.  To those I have offended, please forgive me.  Please.

But my principles have remained largely intact.  I will not fold in the face of those who fail to understand that my feelings and the truth are inseparable.  Stop silencing me by refusing to accept my narratives.  Stop silencing me by providing a range of opinions.   Stop silencing me by displaying the diversity and freedom of speech I came here to experience.

I support Obama.  I support Clinton.  I do not adore either.  Why can't you accept that position?  Why does it frighten you or anger you or invite your disdain?

Please stop silencing me.    

Update [2009-1-6 11:0:30 by Strummerson]: Free mojo for all comments on this diary. Come one, come all. 

Update [2009-1-6 12:46:39 by Strummerson]: Please un-rec now. I made my point and want to make way for other offerings without deleting. Thanks.

Tags: Drama, meta, snark (all tags)

Comments

64 Comments

Please

come and play here.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 05:23AM | 0 recs
Re: Please

have you had any of your comments zero'ed out?

by MumbaiBurns 2009-01-06 05:31AM | 0 recs
Re: Please

There are other ways to silence people.  And I have never zeroed anyone's comment because of a political position, only for dealing in slurs and smears.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 05:45AM | 0 recs
Re: Please

I'm having difficulty understanding how are you being silenced- when you post regularly and your diaries get great traffic, rec'ed often and you have an apparent fan base here.

I've seen u take many pot shots where you circumvent the political dissent and go straight for typos made or some weird historical connection to words used and not meant .  

I think this diary strumm is bit of a pity party. Does anyone think this guy is being really silenced?  If so I'll trade my account for yours :P

by MumbaiBurns 2009-01-06 05:56AM | 0 recs
Re: Please

Are you that stupid Mumbai and couldn't even bother to read the snark tag?

by venician 2009-01-06 07:26AM | 0 recs
Umm....
Mumbia isn't alone I failed to see it/read it as have several others.
Are we all stupid?
by jsfox 2009-01-06 07:29AM | 0 recs
Re: Umm....

No.  No one is stupid.  Okay some are, but name calling doesn't help as I remark immediately below.  There is a point to be made here that only MB refused to acknowledge it at any point and made this the basis of an argument.  But there's nothing to be done about that.  

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 07:37AM | 0 recs
Re: Please

Calling MB stupid doesn't help.  That's his game.  But no, he did not catch that this is satire.  He also refuses to understand that using identity as a pejorative is practically the definition of slur.  There may be no way to get through.  But he thrives on being called names because it validates his favored method of obfuscation: name calling.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 07:30AM | 0 recs
Re: Please

My apologies to anyone I offended. :)

by venician 2009-01-06 07:32AM | 0 recs
Re: Please

Examples of comments I have rated '0'.

Anti-gay slur:

Re: Fair enough (0.00 / 3)
Neef and Sumo= This like watching two little butt buddies go back and forth on who is going to play catcher or pitcher.
by MumbaiBurns on Mon Dec 22, 2008 at 08:56:54 PM PST

Anti-Semitic slur:

Re: Sadly, yes (0.33 / 3)
maybe I'm following the 10 angst of the jewish rage or similar ( just simply change the number to 9).  
by MumbaiBurns on Wed Dec 24, 2008 at 09:06:38 PM EST

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 05:50AM | 0 recs
Re: Please

anti gay? That's not anti gay . It more like watching a bitch fest .

anti semitic slur?

lol. I was making fun of the fact that you always bring some war that took place in your Jewish history and tie it to a political conversation.

Where is the slur in there? You were the one that days before or sometime prior had another freaking 5000 word reply to a post ( going in circles I may add) and used some angst war in jewish history to tie it together or lord knows what you were trying to say.   That was what I making fun off. No freaking slur in it towards jews , it was a poke at you as a poster.

you throw that card and wave that flag way too much.

by MumbaiBurns 2009-01-06 06:05AM | 0 recs
Re: Please

The use of sexual activity/identity or ethnicity as pejoratives constitutes a slur in my book.

And I believe you exaggerate both the rate and appropriateness of my cultural and historical references.  Free to disagree, or not?

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 06:09AM | 0 recs
Re: Please

I could see u disagreeing but I don't see a slur period.

I have on record have tens and tens of posts and diaries that calls us dems out for being the liable on prop 8.  I have written passionately about how I am a huge proponent for gay marriage and rights. that's a fact that you choose to ignore.

But getting back to your diary at hand. This reeks of a pity party as I cannot find a single person who silences you, including me who has never down rated anything you say.

with that I leave you to enjoy comments from the rest.

by MumbaiBurns 2009-01-06 06:19AM | 0 recs
Re: Please

Can't disagree more.  They are slurs and I will treat them as such.  And opposing prop h8 and general support for gay/civil rights does not preclude slurs.  Here's the analogy: racist sentiments and support for civil rights have clearly not always been mutually exclusive.

But I suggest you take this also as a caution to read more closely.  I explicitly identify this diary as snark in the body of the text and in the tags.  Several commenters momentarily fell for the satire as well.  Pay attention before taking cheap shots like "pity party" and make sure you understand what is laid bare before you.

And I've never let your slurs and insults silence me.  I never will.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 06:28AM | 0 recs
Theres a lot of spam diaries here too

dont worry about it. it happens.

by Trey Rentz 2009-01-06 05:25AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me

Have I missed something. All in all I've thought your post we fairly decent. I may not always agree and may question logic or facts, but is that silencing? Now I get some comments maybe a bit over the top by myself and others, but this tends to be the nature of the beast called blogs. We may not always like it, may not always approve, but it is the reality of them. And it certainly isn't unique to MyDD.

Suggestion, try not to take it personally. (yes, easy to say)

FYI: I particularly liked your Judas diary if for no other reason I learned something I did not know. Always refreshing at my age :)

by jsfox 2009-01-06 05:35AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me

(psst... I think it's snark)

by mistersite 2009-01-06 05:42AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me

Aargh. Oh when oh when am I going to remember to read the tags.

I am now heading into my designated corner dunce cap in hand, giving strummerson a high five on the way fro completely and totally sucking me in.

by jsfox 2009-01-06 05:44AM | 0 recs
I love it when snark diarists carry....

...their themes through into the comments, too!

Strummerson, we might not always agree (I think we do most of the time, however), but you're definitely one of the best diarists here!

Excellent diary! Rec'd!

by bobswern 2009-01-06 06:17AM | 0 recs
Re: I love it when snark diarists carry....

Thanks Bob.

CG points out down thread that this may be knocking more important offerings of the rec list.  I think she's right, but I'd rather not delete it.  So perhaps you'd agree to un-rec in an hour or so to make way for more substantive pieces?

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 06:21AM | 0 recs
Beat ya' to it...see comment below. n/t

by bobswern 2009-01-06 06:25AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me

I made the same mistake.  I'm glad I read the comments before I posted anything.

by psychodrew 2009-01-06 07:13AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me

This diary sucks.  Shut up.

by Steve M 2009-01-06 05:49AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me

Hey, strummerson, just stopping by to show my support.

This site has gotten a bit ugly. I still am pretty shaken by being told that I deserved to lose my freedom of choice because I supported Obama. I am shaken by the false cries of sexism and misogyny at every turn. My head aches from reading so many comments and diaries of people pretending to be outraged by one thing or another - it practically gives me an existential conflict. I can't understand the point. I can't understand what it is some of these posters want.

Anyway, I've appreciated reading your stuff before. Please continue to post. It's always a great part of the day to come here and learn from some of the more intelligent diaries and discussions.

by cecilybecily 2009-01-06 05:50AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me

oops. I'm going in the dunce corner with jsfox.

by cecilybecily 2009-01-06 05:52AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me

Welcome, I there's plenty of room :0)

by jsfox 2009-01-06 05:59AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me

Thanks and I'm sorry it's been unpleasant.  This is a satire/snark diary.  I'll continue to post here.  I'll also be posting at motleymoose.  The comments there show a higher level of engagement, but I'll not run away from MyDD.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 05:54AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me

I totally missed the snark, hence my oops.  

by cecilybecily 2009-01-06 05:59AM | 0 recs
strum...

you know i have been a fan.  right?

but this is ridiculous already,  you have bumped good diaries of the rec list for this.  seriously - when people wonder why this site is going down hill, looking in the mirror might be a good thing.

by canadian gal 2009-01-06 05:58AM | 0 recs
Re: strum...

Just making a point given what happened last night.  

I know I behaved badly with MB and zero on your Richardson diary.  My apologies again.  I failed to restrain myself.  I'm sure this will fall to the bottom by lunchtime.  If not, I'll ask people then to un-rec.  Okay?

But I think you are going a bit far to hang what's happening here around my neck.  I don't claim purity or perfection, but that's a bit extreme.

I regret we disagree about the appropriateness of this satire.  I hope the respect between us remains intact in general.  It certainly does from my side.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 06:06AM | 0 recs
Re: strum...

im not hanging ut around your neck per se.  but this diary is contributing to the problem, much like that one does.

by canadian gal 2009-01-06 06:09AM | 0 recs
Re: strum...

Not sure I agree with you on this one.  It seems like just the moment for satire.  Again, you're correct about the rec list.  I'll not let it stay for long, though I'd rather not delete it.  Thanks for raising that issue.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 06:14AM | 0 recs
Dayum! I missed whatever it was...

...that you and CG were referencing...but, whatever it was...looks like I'll "un-rec" the diary based upon comments in this thread.

But, my comments about the quality of Strummerson's writing stand...maybe not the content as much...but the quality's quite good! (IMHO.)

Didn't know there was some recent history...and I missed the previous diary (i.e.: whatever it is that you're referencing between the two of you).

by bobswern 2009-01-06 06:22AM | 0 recs
Re: Dayum! I missed whatever it was...

Not the two of us.  We're talking about zero's posting of hopscotch's open letter from Alegre's Fifth Column.

And what's wrong with my content?!!!  It may not always be correct but it's delightful and brilliant without fail!!!

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 06:30AM | 0 recs
The quality of your tomes is only...

...exceeded by your modesty! LOL! <grin>

by bobswern 2009-01-06 06:42AM | 0 recs
Re: strum...

For some more quality satire, head over to Alegre's Corner, where I've cross-posted jsfox's take on zero's diary.

by XoFalconXo 2009-01-06 06:39AM | 0 recs
It's already been deleted!

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 06:44AM | 0 recs
Re: strum...

Don't bother, it's gone.

by jsfox 2009-01-06 06:45AM | 0 recs
Re: strum...

Ah, young padawan.  Have you net yet learned that Alegre's Corner is a dissent-free zone?

by Dreorg 2009-01-06 08:02AM | 0 recs
Re: strum...

The irony is killing me.  Alegre actually rec'd that diary here.  Yet, she deleted it on her own page.

by XoFalconXo 2009-01-06 09:16AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me

I feel your pain. Snark seems to me to be so obvious when it occurs that I am still shocked when people don't see it for what it is. Seriously.

by QTG 2009-01-06 06:10AM | 0 recs
Dear Strummerson

You're great.  I hate you because you're beautiful.  So beautiful...

Man, looking at you is like eating a unicorn and punching a nun out of pure joy.

But seriously, don't let jackwads get you down.  They've got nothing better to do than to try and tear down real writers.

by Dracomicron 2009-01-06 07:17AM | 0 recs
Re: Dear Strummerson

Hmmm.  Nuns.  Saw "Doubt" recently.  Great flick, even though the New Yorker panned it and I often agree with Lane and Denby.

And no worries.  I'm not down in the least, not about this anyway.  The wars and the dissertation are quite capable of doing that.  Just a bit of satire here.

Now, I prefer my unicorn smoked over hickory.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 07:21AM | 0 recs
You're history's greatest monster

Now, I prefer my unicorn smoked over hickory.

Minced into hash with potatos and scrabled eggs is the American way to do it.

I might allow you some Wisconsin cheddar.

Otherwise you're a satanist.

by Dracomicron 2009-01-06 07:34AM | 0 recs
Shhhhhhh!

Only joking!!!

Sorry, couldn't resist.

by carrieboberry 2009-01-06 07:36AM | 0 recs
Steelers will crush the Chargers

YES, they will.

by Pravin 2009-01-06 07:37AM | 0 recs
Re: Steelers will crush the Chargers

Stop spamming my snark.  I will make allowances only for baseball.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 07:39AM | 0 recs
Never fear, brave Strummerson

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
But make allowance for their doubting too,
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise ... you'll be a man, my son.

Also:

Out West, where you vacation, the aspens will already be turning. They turn in clusters, because their roots connect them. Come back to work - and life. Until then, you will remain in my thoughts and prayers.

by JJE 2009-01-06 07:39AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me [Please Un-Rec]

If that's what you want, un-rec'd.

by rfahey22 2009-01-06 07:52AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me [Please Un-Rec]

Cheers.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 07:54AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me [Please Un-Rec]

This is good. I'll not rec at your request. The ironic part is that it is not clearly snark without the tags. People write things like this all the time and believe the arguments that you made, at least as they pertain to anything they say. Maybe we should label it the Burris Syndrome.

by Jeter 2009-01-06 08:58AM | 0 recs
Re: Please Stop Silencing Me [Please Un-Rec]

Ceremoniously Rec'd, then Un-Rec'd.

Good stuff.

by fogiv 2009-01-06 09:20AM | 0 recs
But I LIKE silencing you!

If I can't silence you, then who am I going to silence?  Huh? Who?

by Captain Bathrobe 2009-01-06 10:25AM | 0 recs
Re: But I LIKE silencing you!

You could silence people with bad grammar instead, like this:

I think you meant "whom."  "Who" in the subject position; "whom" as object.

Here's how your query should read:

"If I can't silence you, then whom shall I silence?  Huh? Whom?"

Here's a mnemonic to help remember:

Knock Knock!

Who's there?

Fuck!

Fuck who?

No, idiot!  It's fuck whom!

In the first instance, "who's" occupies the subject position.  In the second, "Fuck who," it is incorrectly used as an object that will receive the fucking.  The punchline corrects the problem by amending to the appropriate "whom" form.

And you get a free joke too!!!

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 10:38AM | 0 recs
Re: But I LIKE silencing you!

This is the sort of insubordination up with which I will not put. ;)

by Captain Bathrobe 2009-01-06 11:27AM | 0 recs
Re: But I LIKE silencing you!

I'm speechless........

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 11:28AM | 0 recs
Re: But I LIKE silencing you!

Precisely my intention.

by Captain Bathrobe 2009-01-06 12:51PM | 0 recs
Re: But I LIKE silencing you!

"We shall fight the Grammar Nazis on the beaches...we shall never surrender."

Churchill, FTW!

:)

by Captain Bathrobe 2009-01-06 01:01PM | 0 recs
Re: But I LIKE silencing you!

Yeah.  Please do not use NAZI.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 01:03PM | 0 recs
Re: But I LIKE silencing you!

Fair enough.  My apologies.

by Captain Bathrobe 2009-01-06 01:05PM | 0 recs
Re: But I LIKE silencing you!

Seriously, though, I liked your diary.

by Captain Bathrobe 2009-01-06 01:08PM | 0 recs
Re: But I LIKE silencing you!

Oh crap.  After viewing your posting history, allow me to offer my double and triple apologies.  I only used the term "Nazi" because of the historical context of Churchill opposing them, my quote from Churchill, etc.  I was not for a minute trying to imply that you were one of them.

Now I feel like a total choad.  Not for the first time...

Again, sorry.

by Captain Bathrobe 2009-01-06 01:19PM | 0 recs
Re: But I LIKE silencing you!

No worries.

by Strummerson 2009-01-06 02:13PM | 0 recs
Re: But I LIKE silencing you!

Cheers.

by Captain Bathrobe 2009-01-06 02:17PM | 0 recs

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