Excuse my French
by Rob in Vermont, Mon Oct 01, 2007 at 08:58:13 PM EDT
I'm not the most prolific diarist or commenter, but anyone familiar with my contributions knows something about my temperament. I've cheered our field of candidates since before any of them announced. I've contributed long essays where I've tried to be constructive in both praising and criticizing my favorite candidate, John Edwards.
I've tried to be very respectful toward other members of this community. On those occasions when I think someone's made a particularly inane remark, the harshest you might expect from me is satire, not bile.
In other words, to use an old-fashioned idiom, I've kept a civil tongue in my head.
But not in this post. Because some members of this community have gone beyond the pale, and I don't feel like being at all polite toward them. I'm talking about this comment and response - the latter by someone who is accorded frontpage posting privileges on this blog. I'm not going to blockquote their comments, because they don't deserve to be quoted. They are shitty comments. And the original commenter continues to smear this fecal matter in a new thread today.
Elizabeth Edwards, who herself has been an occasional contributor to the comment threads on MyDD, has incurable metastatic cancer. Learning you have an incurable, fatal disease is the most horrible thing any person - and any couple - can face. Or perhaps the second most horrible thing: the death of your child being the first. This family has surely faced its share of horrors - and faced them with unquestionable grace and courage.
The commenters I linked to have suggested that Elizabeth Edwards is exploiting her cancer. And they have suggested that her cancer could spoil the Democrats' chances to win the White House. Both commenters try to mask their shit in the perfume of concern.
But you can't mask the stink of shit. These commenters have no deep concern for Elizabeth Edwards or for her family or for the viability of her husband's candidacy. If (God forbid) Bill Clinton was the spouse facing a life-threatening disease this campaign season, you can be fucking certain that these two commenters would not be suggesting that their favorite candidate couldn't be both a viable Democratic standard-bearer and a decent wife at the same time. No, they are simply doing what political hacks do: they are exploiting Elizabeth Edwards's fatal illness to take potshots at her husband.
I recall a New Republic article back in the 2004 race, where the journalist noted that at a campaign event in New Hampshire, someone in the audience asked John Edwards to talk about how the death of his son had affected him as a candidate. The journalist wrote that most politicians would use such a softball question as a great opportunity to "connect" with the audience; the writer was surprised and impressed that Edwards simply told the person that this was a personal matter and moved on to another question.
Reticence can indeed be a virtue. But public figures also may have the opportunity, if they choose, to help educate by speaking out about very painful, personal issues. Like others in public life before them - Betty Ford and Nancy Reagan with their breast cancers, Ronald Reagan with his Alzheimer's diagnosis - John and Elizabeth Edwards have spoken openly about her illness. In interviews, they have shared, when asked, the words they used to talk to their young children about the subject of death and about Elizabeth's condition. She has recently written a book about dealing with family tragedies which - by virtue of her fame - many, many people will read and take solace in.
God only knows how much time Elizabeth Edwards has left in this world, but it wouldn't make a difference whether her husband were a politician, or a plumber: he will carry on his responsibilities - to his work and to his family. He will do what all partners must do in this situation - continue to live a productive, responsible life. Cate Edwards will step up, as she has already stepped up, to help care for her brother and sister.
They are an extraordinary family. And they are an ordinary family. They will do what families do.
John and Elizabeth Edwards are certainly not exploiting her cancer. That is a monstrous concept. The only people exploiting her cancer are the people who write the sort of concern-troll filth I linked to above.
I am sure people intoxicated by their own partisanship can hallucinate that John and Elizabeth Edwards are the shallowest of human beings: political creatures who believe in nothing - not bringing our troops home, not universalizing healthcare, not ending poverty, not protecting the environment, not being an example for their children of commitment to public service and of the courage to live life to the fullest even in the face of death; social climbers who are motivated solely by a self-centered dream to win the nomination and the election so they can move into the White House and have the fancy titles of President and First Lady.
In their partisan stupor, these commenters belch that Edwards couldn't be an effective Democratic standard-bearer if he has to attend to his sick partner - whose physical condition (inside and outside) these faux-concerned commenters chronicle for us like supermarket tabloids.
They fantasize an America that wouldn't elect a candidate whose partner has terminal cancer (how can he expect to get votes if he has to spend any time off the campaign trail for a family crisis?) Of course at the same time, they imagine the Edwardses are using her cancer to garner sympathy votes. Their repugnant concern-troll comments implying that Edwards should drop out reflect nothing more than the posters' obvious desire for the clearest possible glide path to the nomination for their preferred candidate.
And so they post shameful, petty comments exploiting Elizabeth Edwards's cancer even while they scurrilously charge her with exploiting it. Of course, it's not that uncommon for people to project their own worst traits upon others. A liar thinks everyone is a liar, a crook thinks everyone is a crook. But its being common doesn't make it excusable.
The people writing this shit need to take a shower and sober up from their obnoxious, grotesque partisanship. If they have an ounce of decency, an ounce of maturity, they'll stop making political hay over the cancer in the body of a politician's spouse. It is reprehensible. It should not be tolerated here on this site, or anywhere.
Tags: Betty Ford, Cate Edwards, Elizabeth Edwards, John Edwards, Nancy Reagan, Ronald Reagan (all tags)









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