[Updated] Blaming Blacks and Mormons = Braindead
by Reaper0Bot0, Sat Nov 08, 2008 at 01:09:39 PM EST
Howdy folks! We're probably going to have an argument, but at least it isn't an argument about what primary candidate we should support. I guess that's progress.
I was absolutely shocked that Proposition 8 passed in California. That was a true crime against our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters. I just can't fathom why a majority of Californians would do such a thing. It hurt. It hurt me less than it might have hurt someone who planned to marry the person they love, but it's still a crime against me too. We are, all of us, brothers and sisters. A crime against the few is a crime against all.
But I'm seeing too many people at too many websites lashing out against whole groups, namely African Americans and Mormons. Be better than this, please.
African Americans have been subject to oppression the likes of which I hope the world never again sees. So, by the way, have Mormons. Admittedly the crimes against the two groups aren't the same exactly, but evil has been done to both. Yes, they should know better. No, I'm not happy about this.
But to lash out at the groups as a whole is as severe an evil as what's been done to our brothers and sisters. We must be better than this. We lost a battle on Tuesday, and not a small one. There were casualties, millions of them. In a way, we all were wounded by this. Yes, even those who voted for Prop Eight were wounded by it, though their wounds were self-inflicted. They should be ashamed.
One day, they will be. If not them, their children. If not their children, then their grandchildren.
But I've known Blacks who were gay. I know of Mormons who are gay. I've known Blacks and Mormons who were not gay but opposed Proposition 8. Guys, we have to be better than this. It's simply too easy to lash out at groups for your pain. A part of me doesn't blame you. But that's too seductive, too easy.
In eleven months I will marry the most wonderful girl in the world. She has made me the happiest man I know. I simply cannot fathom why anyone would deny that right to another. Joy is too rare in this life to suppress it. And that's how we win this thing. We have to make more people understand what it is that gays and lesbians want. They want a shot at the same happiness the rest of us already have.
And yes, a lot of the people we'll have to teach are African American or Mormon. A lot. But a bunch of them aren't either of those things. Heck, some of them are even gay (yes, I'm being serious). We have to grow, as a people. It won't come as quickly as we want. People alive now will not all live to see it come. That's a painful thought.
But don't lash out like this. It's a shortcut, and it'll only make things worse. Outright hostility by the gay community (and us straights who sympathize with them) against Blacks and Mormons will only make this worse.
Patience is a painful thing, but a necessary one. People are imperfect. I am imperfect. You are imperfect. We all suffer our imperfections, and those of others. But we should try to be better. So, please, try.
[Update]Folks, there are Mormons who did not support this effort. You know that, right?